Nice post, clackers. Since my other-half doesn't know that I post here (!), well, she knows but she doesn't bother reading my nonsense, it's not her bag, I want to say that I totally agree with the ideas expressed in your post. I should add that I've been married, also over 30 years, to a Chinese lady. She has a very high IQ, is well educated and she is FEMININE, still slim and attractive, and happy with herself, exactly as your friend elaborated on. But let me say, as a general comment on this thread, yes, as we've all seen, daily, there are fat, ugly, tattooed western women all over the place, BUT there are an equal, or greater, number of men, similarly endowed, out there too. Thank God there IS someone for everyone, or where would we be?