As stated in this post, these studies appear to indicate some men need a more realistic outlook about modern marriage. They still have obsolete notions of marriage being everything. Being divorced or single is viewed as the end of the world.
At one time, having a wife meant having a companion. Someone who would care about you and help you in life. Those days are gone. Today, modern marriage is centered on the wife. Partnership is discouraged in women’s literature As emphasized by Parenting Magazine (Mad at Dad 2009) & repeated by many women’s websites, husbands are now expected to do – at minimum – 50% of house chores. However, wives are not be expected to help husbands with housing repairs, auto maintenance or other similar tasks. These are deemed the “husband’s job”. Additionally, as emphasized by women’s literature, house chores and husband’s jobs must be completed according to the wife’s time schedule. Her husband’s viewpoint does not matter.
Any wife that helps her husband or considers his opinions is criticized in women’s literature as subservient. Additionally, she will also be the target of peer pressure from other women to change her behavior toward her husband.
Also, in modern marriage, husbands are used as baby sitters so the wife can have her weekly ‘girls night out’. This is especially true if she wants to stay out late clubbing. However, boys night out is frowned upon. This is especially true if he wants stay out late clubbing. He will be considered a deadbeat.
Lastly, if a late night girls outing results in an extra marital affair and pregnancy.
The hapless husband must raise & finance the child. .. The sleazebag other man will have no obligations. I’ve been told this is also the law in Britain.
Modern wives are taught to view their husbands as living room decorations.
More men should be educated about modern marriage. Letting ex-husbands tell their personal stories is one way to accomplish this task. No names or pictures are necessary. Men can simply explain how they were treated during their marriage and how the family court treated them during the divorce. Ideally, these stories should appear on popular men’s websites. But how many websites would be willing to let ex-husbands tell their stories is questionable. Nonetheless, the stories would be educational. They would prompt very fundamental questions: Why have a “modern” wife? What purpose does she serve? What value is she? What benefit is modern marriage? Admittedly, men have previously received a health benefit from being married. However, research by Hui Liu and Debra Umberson (Journal of Health and Social Behavior, 2008) show, today, there is little difference in health status between married and unmarried men.
