The simple fact is, "he lost the plot" as you say....just snapped. It would've had nothing to do with the kid's behaviour.....just him trying to hurt his wife because he's feeling so much pain from her trying to restrict his access to the kids.
If you think about it, it almost proves that he was crazy that he didn't jump over himself after doing what he did. Who would ever want to live with that?? Apparently he's on suicide watch and completely catatonic now.
And, no, I'm not saying it was all his ex's fault. It's just what happens in these instances. People lose their minds.
I have a great mate (good guy and great father to his kids) who went through a marriage breakup, and his wife started wanting to restrict his access simply because she didn't like being alone without the kids....just silly selfish stuff like that. That was the real reason although she told the court that the frequency of his access was unsettling the kids. The kids were doing just fine. It nearly drove him crazy, and he was the most placid guy on earth.....and it was her that initiated the breakup by having an affair with some other guy.
At one stage, because he felt so disgusted with himself, he actually confessed to me that he had one time found himself thinking about harming the kids just to make her feel some of the pain that he was feeling by not being allowed to see the kids enough. He just couldn't believe that a thought like that had ever entered his head. But it had. He eventually got over it, but it nearly turned him into a nutcase in the meantime. He's fine again now.
Believe me, people in marriage breakups can end up quite disturbed and basically completely unstable at certain stages in the process, particularly when there are issues concerning access to the kids.
I really believe this is a problem that is not given sufficient 'attention' in our society. Thankfully issues such as child abuse, bullying, health issues such as breast cancer etc are gaining higher profiles, but counselling in marriage breakups etc is still really not getting the attention in needs.
Apparently some of the people that are counselling are completely unqualified etc.
I'm not trying to make excuses for what this guy did. There are no excuses, but there are obviously reasons beside the obvious reason that he was out of his mind. Society really does need to pay more attention to this whole issue.
I think one of the problems with it is, that only people who have been through marriage breakups involving young kids, can understand just excruciating the pain can be.
This poor little darling ended up dead, but there are kids everywhere being affected badly by these situations everyday. Very sad indeed.
