Yes christianty can be quite harsh, I was brought up one, but now I'm more agnostic than anything. I believe in god, but I am ticked off with him, my fear is that I will go to hell, I mean I guess that's been ingrained into me, I can't change that. Besides I have enough problems without worrying about god, and yes,there are things he can't change. If you don't want to believe that's your choice, I wont hold that against anyone. Just a discussion, I'm probably more a a pacifist, if anything, don't bother me and I wont bother you. But I am friendly.