I see some of my previous posts on this thread have been moderated for being sexist, and in hindsight rightly so. I do know of a few couples, where the man bludges and plays golf all day, while the wife has 2 jobs and looks after the kids too, so hangers on, or gold diggers as it were, are not defined by sex.
Marriage is an equal union, both parties working to attain their goals.
Sorry if my remarks caused offence, this was not my intention.
