only love makes us happy, page-15

vayama
i dont think you will ever get rid of suffering and its many guises

as this is part of our programming

we are also programmed to learn and adapt
so perhaps meditation, cognitive behaviour therapy might help us to alleviate suffering to a degree

but I don't think you will ever get rid off it
monks in temples might be able to come close to it
but these guys are working 24/7 on meditation, cognitive behaviour therapy or whatever form it takes in buddhism

the minute they stop working on it they go back to being instinct driven
also i have my doubts that they ever get free from instincts even when they are meditating 24 hours a day
and think of it this way
how difficult is it to get away from our programming
most people couldnt be bother
they would just prefer to be animals
eg haters of boat people

loneliness is just programming by the way...to be part of community has survival value.
It can be overcome with meditation and cognitive behaviour therapy
but most people can't be bothered so they give into the feeling and seek out company ie join clubs, visit friends, get married and have children etc. it is much easier.