i actually agree that’s it’s about making it work. I was contemplating my response after I posted it. The thing I dislike is someone else making up my mind for me, or making me have to justify my thinking, or treating me as if I don’t have a brain, don’t know how to change a washer or drill a hole or make decisions.
sometimes you’ll get what you want and sometimes you won’t. But mostly it’s about cooperation. I’ve had friends for years where there has never been any friction because we totally respect the other and don’t lay great store on always having our own way
its also about the social contract you create with others. But if you have undertaken to deliver something and you don’t the. You’ve broken that contract. So a couple may be absolutely fine with traditional roles. That’s their thing. Others run different lives. That’s for them.
we all live with consequences. Some might be better then others at picking trustworthy behaviour though. That’s the tricky bit.
as for whether I do or don’t want to live in a world where men aren’t protecting me from other men. . Mmm. I’m not aware that it’s needed actually. I think I’m terrifying enough all on my own.
