I respect you for unpacking your childhood and gender issue related baggage into this forum. Some of us are here to help, but not to opffer anything adversarial.
Its fairly evident that you have issues that you are projecting onto all men and i feel that many of the above posts can help you to move a lot of that baggage (also, some won't be helpful). In order for that to happen, you might better serve yourself to see all posts in the light of their own merit and not within the shadow of your prejudices about your issue with your father.
Your posts are self-incriminating when it comes to the notion of divide and conquer, adversarial contributions, personal and gender-related demands, slavedom, gender pecking-orders and so on.
Until you unpack all of your issues with the willingness to repack them with a sense of ownership, then we will go around in circles. I am happy to discuss as you need to, but first it is up to you to desist with the belligerent nature of your posts, for no changes can occur until you are willing to help yourself in this way.
