Do I detect some judgment from your comments? How can you, who has never been divorced, sit back and tell individuals to cheer up and get over it? Who are you to say that people have no right to complaint and moan, and that life is a lot better than it is? You have read the posts, you shared some of pain by briefly going over what's been said and then you go back to your bed, with your loving husband and your house that's never been taken away from you. These scenarios are real for grieving men and women, and it's there every second of their lives to the point where the pain grows - some do not make it, some go on to take their lives due to the extreme sorrow that consumes them. It is humiliating and crippling, and a little more understanding and some space is not a lot to ask for.
Men are about their wealth, what they can earn, what they possess, what they can provide as a symbol of who they are. Women are about beauty, visual attractiveness, about being able to carry and care for a child in the best possible way. If any woman is visually disfigured, then the very symbol of her existence is destroyed. Should I say "get over it"? You may think it's not the same, but in essence it is. These men have had their pride and their dignity stripped to the bone, and have very little in terms of communal support when they find themselves ousted. Shame on our society. Shame on our legal system. Shame on everyone who supports women taking their children away from their fathers for no reason other than "I need to find myself".
But cheer up, do not feel so bad, because once you are over my post you will still have the same warm and fuzzy life that you take for granted, which, by the way, if ever is taken away from you then the world would expect to never hear you "complain and moan" because you will just get over it. Trust me, I do not wish that upon you - because I know how it burns you from inside out.
I am sorry for being a nasty pasty, but I'm not going to sit back and let those on the left of life judge others who are copping it hard. When hardship becomes reality, then it's only a matter of time where one shifts from the left to the right. Take anyone's food away from them, take anyone's shelter from them, taking anyone's children away from them you then have a recipe for volatility and backlash.
Bitter and twisted? No, we just feel 'let down' by society!
