DV how many killed, page-62

of course asking for help is not a weakness. Nor is not knowing things. But you write as if people have self awareness. Not everyone does. Or they may have shut down self insight or criticism because it could be painful to acknowledge the possibility of failure or flaws. or … or. No two people are the sane though their are known patterns.

interesting I think part of the problem is shame. Say you actually do not like the thought of being abusive - you see yourself as better than that - but there are triggers and you lash out physically. Then you suffer cognitive dissonance and a range of mechanisms get called on to deal with that. But tte cycle actually keeps going as long as the trigger exists.