actually he can be charming I think. What people say when they think they are safe is not necessarily what they do and what they do or say if in the Angel period or trying to impress is not the same either.
judges, doctors, lawyers and scientists all engage in behaviour. Intellect or ability to be smooth, or know things or have an opinion is no predictor. In fact it may well hide it because people are more ready to label those who sound “coarser”.
there’s a type and he fits it But I realise a lot more about many issues associated with DV, why women stay, what enabling behaviour is and well - blindness. Objectification may not be family violence as people understand it but it is part of the context in which women operate and that women are upset by.
but if people want to defend someone who objectifies and then feel they are a feminist that’s their own morals and self justification. They will continue to live in their own delusion as do those who actually are abusive but can always find a reason to explain it away, turn it on another.
