Down in Melbourne for a few days and some words have finally come.
"A rock feels no pain, and an island never cries" - Simon & Garfunkel - describes where I am when I'm hurting, physically or emotionally. But I have learnt that the exact opposite is what you need to be doing. It's okay to grieve Kincella, to remember, to cry, rage if you have to. For there will be a day that the sun will shine for you again. Mighn't be tomorrow or even next week, give it time.
I often mention you to my husband Kincella. Unfailingly kind, polite, well-meaning and a lover of all creatures, great and small, is how I have described you to him. When I am feeding Millie the possum (who now has a baby of her own in her pouch) my Essential Grain fruitloaf, and my husband opens his mouth to protest, I only have to mention your name and he knows that argument is going to be futile, as he knows how much you would approve. I've told him plenty of times!
It's a privilege to be part of your life Kincella and to be part of this online community. You are right when you say that you feel it is a place you can let your defences down and to let others help you. And that's a hard thing to do for some of us.
