Maybe this is getting a bit personal & off topic but i'm going to post it anyway ---- when the time comes don't walk away from the last goodbye.
My old man was diagnosed with cancer & 12 months later his time came the last day still cuts me up though when i think about it even though it was 15 years ago. He remained at home for most of the 12 months before moving to a pallitive care hospice in the last week or so - we got the call todays his time, family should be there to say last goodbyes. He waved both me & my sister straight out of the room as soon as we went to walk in although he did see our mother.
In hindsight i always think we should of just walked in & said our goodbyes against his wishes ? But ah thems the breaks it's his time & i guess traumatic for everyone people don't really think straight in those kind of circumstances & with his position i guess we thought anything he desired at that point should be what he got - obviously the reason he pushed it away is because he didn't want his kids to see him right at the end & would rather them hold onto the past memorys of him in his prime not bed ridden & underweight.
But i still think it means alot for the people you leave behind to be able to say thankyou & goodbye - they'll always remember the good times regardless.
