Too many people have paid very high prices for trying to be always nice. Conciliatory. Politically correct. Not heeding vast warning signs. As Neville Chamberlain found, pre 1939, when he visited Mr. Hitler, and came back and re-assured England how "nice" he was, and how he had no plans to invade anywhere!
A little light reading re: The Munich Agreement, it may or may not help one to understand a bit more about what actually happened and why, but that's for another thread.