koala, what qualifies you to comment on children ??
I have cared for thousands of children over the years and can say the ones that received firm discipline from both parents were far more balanced and respectful than the ones that were let do their own thing.
a common theme among offending juveniles is no discipline from a fatherless family.
so why dont you leave the parenting to families that have been doing a successful job and have a good track record.