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Ddzx, Free Will and Koala Joe. My money says you do not have kids
Free Will certainly has kids
my father never once hit or smacked me
I have no kids but have helped raise kids
my best surrogate boy received a lot of violence from his father. mum split
when I met him & his mother (and brothers), his mother used to invite me in, when I would walk back from the beach, only wearing wet shorts
I would sit on the tiled floor, crossed legged, due to my wet shorts, and the boy would buzz around me, punching me & violently pinching by breasts
his mother would cry out: "Don't" but I would raise my hand in calmness and motion to her: "Stop"
soon the boy learned to trust me and one day I walked in and instead of punching me, he wrapped his arms around my waist and hugged me
supreme success
soon after, she found a good man. the boy is now 16 years old and what a boy!
I consider my approach removed the anger from that boy
there is no need to smack any kids
I could tell a few other stories
small children are like dogs. their emotions can be controlled with touch, massage, etc
nothing a little proper care & attention can solve
kids generally reflect/mirror their parents
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