The worse thing you can do, mack67 is to ignore your nature. You have to do all the other elemental things: can't escape them and be thankful that you can. They don't make you "average" in any way. And they keep people from calling you a freak of nature. I hope that by "the sexual urge in men" you use the generative meaning of the word "men" and include women in there also. Believe it or not their "sexual urges" are in equal measure. There seems to be an abnormal need for you to "stand out" as being... what, exactly, "unique?" Above all the others? Elite? Forget that! It is downright sublime to be able to do what the average organism can, from the lowly amoeba to the mighty complex human. We are not talking about rape, here. I certainly am not. I am talking about proper, totally consensual sex among people who are legally old enough to do it. It has always been good stuff and it will remain to be so. It got bad pulpit press but the atheists and sensible folk dismiss the pulpit so far as sex goes.
