Islam for All, page-214

I still think you're missing the forest looking at the trees.

I'll try a better analogy if it might help.

Pushing your child to exercise when they hate it.
Pushing your child to avoid a sugary drink when they really desire it.
To a child, especially for the first time of pushing, these things are tortuous "to them"

A parent on the other hand is being compassionate and loving by doing so.

Kam