Goldie, you would make a great politician…unfortunately reality isn’t a singular simple answer. There are so many issues to making marriage successful, least of which include honesty, commitment, compromise and sacrifice… It only takes one partner to bring that all undone.
Catlover…. As you infer there is good and bad in both sexes. When it all comes unstuck the worst in both surface (self protection)…unfortunately the children suffer. I know many divorcees who have set as a their first priority…… to do the best for the kids. In a socially conscious society does it really matter who’s child it is (yah, I know what a bitch/bastard…but it has happened …get her/him some other way but not via the kids).
I didn’t realise how problematic the Family Court still is. My parents where divorced in the 50’s (an unusual [if not shameful] event at the time). The best thing was [Dad got the boys and Mum got the girls] weekend visits died after about 2 years…thank God the courts did enforce it. I hated it. Although I never got to know my mother, it certainly removed the inter-hate competition. We got on with life (both sides), took the positives and moved on. Today I see kids at my children’s school packing up to change households for a week. My kids tell me most hate doing it; living in two households with two sets of rules, two sets of cloths etc, and two parents who are reminded each week of the others existence. Again, parent greed ripping kid’s emotions apart. Sorry I sometimes think it would be better if the separation was permanent. When the kids get to adulthood they’ll seek out the other parent…without bias. Sometimes in life there are issues you just have to let go of……….. .no matter how unjust it may appear.
