Let me spell it out for you, I met the girl when she was 12 unbeknown to me she had develop a crush on me and some 6-7 years latter I became aware of that and that is when the relationship began.
So you see relationship don't normally begin when two people meet for the time, some how in you mind you think Marcon relationship with his now wife began when the first meet. You did the same with spinefx