I agree with your final para particularly.
and as that is the most likely outcome, why then do we need defence forces at all?

nah.... we need to have a capability of defence. diesel subs can do most things than nuke subs can. maybe not so quiet but certainly adequate, maybe not such a long range, but would we want our personnel to be under water for 6 months at a time?
anyway, its all an interesting discussion. I concede that you make more sense with a better argument, and no doubt better informed than I am (wouldn't be difficult)
good chat squidd.