actually it’s not quite true. My job required me to be reasonably clear and direct was useful sometimes but I was also fully capable of tiptoeing around personalities and issues. That’s why I actually earned what I did and made me a nice target for a scanner . In private life more mixed and easily cowed and suffered from a need to please. No longer. I guess I’ve taken my professional life into my private life.
and btw my hair was once distinctly reddish but I was born honey blonde!