Hey zbusc I've got a full weekend community building seminar at the moment so won't get time to get on my computer and can't copy and paste on my phone (no idea why HC can't copy and paste on an iPhone)
If you search "thief in the night sears pdf" you will be able to open up William Sears book on this subject.
Read the First Promise, Second Promise, Third Promise and Other Promises for the answer to your question.
