Have to say in this case we met on two occasions first at hotel...

Have to say in this case we met on two occasions first at hotel and each paid their own (8- 10 people present) and the second occasion Dutch and ZYL wasn't even mentioned, so I must say feel as though we were not "courted" so to speak, I would have pricked up my ears re anything said about zyl at the time, but nothing re zyl business entered the conversation we were just 4 people enjoying a marvellous city and sharing experiences. simple as that.
I still find it hard to accept your senario but I am in no position to disagree it is out of my depth. I simply don't have an opinion and really it is over.

I have no doubt that what you are saying in your last post is absolutely correct, but in this case it was never suggested that we take a greater financial interest in zyl or antyhing similiar. I felt it was a case that Mal genuinely liked us and we liked he and wife very much. Plse don't think I am holding up a flag for Mal, I am just stating what happened.