Margaret - I think there is a happy medium and sensible boundaries that respect individual freedoms
A culture which is undivided by differences a person can't control - sex, race, and yes gender/sex preference, is stronger than a divided society where tribalism tears it apart.
A culture should strive to make all citizens equal, respected and if we can find it in our hearts, celebrated.
But where you might be getting annoyed is that the 'progressives' step over the line is that they believe they know (and are) better than you, and therefore can dictate your life to you and your family.
Some of the many ideals they have which are not positive for our culture/county
- government control of your families education.
- promoting a 'victim' mentality and the myth of the 'white oppressor' - no meritocracy or dignity in work
- a cancel culture where anyone questioning their ideals or performance is censored and bullied
- the hatred they have for their own culture/country and even skin colour - It is not clear why they do not immigrate elsewhere
To combat what looks like insanity to many people, I recommend MLKing's message which applies to many situations