Hi Alan,Depressed peoples minds are so powerful that whatever...

Hi Alan,

Depressed peoples minds are so powerful that whatever you do or say whether it be to empethise or critise , they will construe it back to support their negative thoughts.

I have put up with this in my immediate family for years.

You have to try to support your daughter and your other family . Number 1 priority. This sounds mean but people with depression think of noone but themselves. Not in a selfish way , but in an obsessed way.

I have to think everyday that if I care I for my family that's good, if I start to worry too much I will end up like them and that is good for nobody.

show support without dwelling on the problem. Say " I'm here to support you, is there anything you need?" not "you must feel terrible ,I feel sorry for you.

Try to remain positive (it's hard )
There is no magic wand to bring them around.In my opinion only time. I am undecided on drugs as we've had very limited success in my family. Finding the right medicine seems a lifelong quest for us.

Hopes this helps . All the best