Feel Better:Complain About Anything, page-106584

@Joannie - Dear JoJo, your last message is sad to read, but I hope you had a good night's sleep and are waking to a 'Bran Nu Dae'.
Thankyou for being so trusting as to put this on a public forum.

Re: the Peace of Death: it is a thought which all of us have from time to time, so you are not alone.

I won't tell you what you need to do, but maybe I can suggest, you could keep a diary and write those thoughts down - then read them through later, maybe next morning, or a few days later and see how you feel about them??
Try and do it as lyrical or poetic, or even with swear words, as just come to you in that moment!
Listen to music, do your 'walks' (1000 steps, was it?),
praise yourself when you do something positive,
for some people prayer is important - pray to whatever greater power you believe in, even if it is 'Mother Earth, Father Sky' etc.
I wrote poetry when my husband died . . . and cried buckets (same with Sonia) - but it is part of the healing process . . .
If you can avoid it, don't involve your husband, it is hard to bear one's own burdens, but to bear another's burden - a person one loves - is even harder.

I have a friend, also English, who had a Mum who had life-long psychiatric problems (she was what we would nowadays classify as a narcissist, but had other issues as well; huge mood swings, that sort of thing) and didn't treat her three daughters well, but she had a loving and kind Dad, who, unfortunately died early. Sooo: I do know from her, how a sick Mum can affect children - even though she finished up in a very happy marriage with a wonderful husband, who is still around, loved her work, lives in beautiful surroundings on a small farm - whenever I visit, she will talk about her childhood to me - but she functions as a happy wife, mum and grandmother.

My new 'friend', i.e. piano tuner, has told me all sorts of things about his childhood (in New York) and it seems no-one goes through life without trauma.
Similar with some of the people who are posting on here - if you paid attention you will know who they are.

Little problems also happen and can impact you, but are easy, because results are quick and reinforce positive action - bigger problems take time, but see if you can make yourself a plan, a tracker of sorts, where you can measure your progress.

Writing on here is a great help too, there are supportive people on here and all of us have problems of one kind or another, some big, some small
and remember one person's big problem is simply a hiccough for another and vice versa, someone's little problem would be a huge stumbling block to someone else.
I am tempted to post a song, but I will leave it to you to post a happy song in return to my post.
AND: remember your Pommy sense of humour!!
XX
Tau