You don't know the first thing about me, instead of worrying...

You don't know the first thing about me, instead of worrying about other people how about you worry about yourself. I had an angry rant ready but honestly you don't need it and I will refrain from posting it as you clearly are not in a great headspace. I doubt anyone would be in your current situation.

You might not want to hear this but, I want you to know that you are not in a position to be trying to help others; and any help you can afford you should be spent doing nice things for your daughter. Your energy is better spent elsewhere, why not spend that time and energy preparing surprises and doing things that your daughter enjoys with her or for her.

You could do anything from bringing cakes, to flowers, to something more sentimental and personal to you. You could get her friends or family to write on balloons fill the ceiling with them so when she wakes up, so that she's in for a nice surprise when she wakes up, then release the ballons outside for a nice memory that you might be able to cherish forever.

I do not know your personal situation, but instead of focusing on the negatives, I suggest you focus on the positives; instead of spending your time worrying, spend it thinking up ideas of how you can enjoy life.