lol. Yeah. Normal and I don’t think it’s a bad thing either....

lol. Yeah. Normal and I don’t think it’s a bad thing either. Better than to live life assuming others are out to get you. Hindsight isn’t so bad if you learn from it. I’d not expect the a to be at all embarrassed or remorseful, nor to be grateful that his current quality of life is considerably enhanced at my expense - including that which he hid. Afterall if remorse was in his psychology he wouldn’t have done that stuff in the first place

And I’d never blame any one of the rather large number of people who could see it either. How could they know what to say.

I am currently rehearsing how to speak to a friend who we all think is being groomed for a scam. The signs are obvious and she is blinded. Talking to her will be one of the most difficult things of my life. What I don’t want to do is have her mentally reinforce what she is doing by defending herself. It’s tricky but it’s important.