how you all going there fellas, got this abuser thingy worked out yet?
this might help. One thing I learned in life as a man is that when a man leaves a woman - there's two kinds of situations - 1. he goes off with another woman and that's a far easier bitter pill for a woman to swallow, but, 2. if he goes off and lives by himself - that's very different ---------- it's the difference between the woman being outcompeted and just plain rejected as a human being. If in case 2. there's other complications like below --------- one can open up some real anger.
It can be interesting to observe - control, which turns to abuse, power abuse, financial abuse, control of the most minor things, like very personal space, all just for the sake of control.
One needs in these cases to look back - look back to early years - it's an interesting area of research. You often see it in conversations where fixated people derail entire conversations that have nothing to do with their fixation - eg. maybe People and fear of dislocation from climate --------- somehow, magically moves to 'I'm a victim of men'
Some people have a pattern of needing to be rejected, which is known as rejection sensitivity or rejection sensitivity dysphoria. This is a psychological condition where individuals have an excessive fear of rejection and tend to perceive intentional rejection in situations where it may not exist.[1][2]
## Key Points About Rejection Sensitivity
- People with rejection sensitivity are hypersensitive to any perceived rejection, even minor incidents like someone not responding to a text right away. They tend to misinterpret behaviors as rejection.[1]
- They may go to great lengths to avoid rejection, such as people-pleasing behaviors or avoiding situations where rejection is possible. This can lead to isolation and loneliness.[1]
- In romantic relationships, they may constantly seek reassurance, become irrationally jealous, or interpret small things as signs of rejection from their partner.[1]
- Rejection sensitivity can stem from early childhood experiences or beliefs about one's self-worth. It's a way to protect against the pain of rejection.[1][3]
- Those with high rejection sensitivity show different brain activity when viewing faces perceived as rejecting compared to faces showing other emotions.[1]
- The fear of rejection causes heightened physiological arousal and distress in these individuals.[1]
- Rejection-sensitive adolescents, especially girls, may engage in risky behaviours to maintain relationships despite negative consequences.[1]
So in essence, some individuals have developed an excessive need to avoid rejection at all costs due to their hypersensitivity to it, which can paradoxically lead to unhealthy patterns in relationships and social interactions.[1][2][3]
