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23/09/17

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Denk12: Your children are very lucky children, well adults now; ;what a wonderful childhood you and your wife provided them! Children who live interesting lives, i.e. 'natural' lives aren't naughty; bored kids are naughty. Children are inquisitive and adventurous and there are dangers out there for which they are unprepared. Rules are important and cause and effect (punishment) will show them when these rules are broken.

Light physical punishment, if there is love and security generally, does not seem to do much damage. I didn't believe in it, but I had daughters and a husband with great authority, so just a stern word was enough - most of the time. Of course there were transgressions and one particular one is burnt into my mind forever and I wish I had given that slap, rather than a tongue lashing, but too late.

The school kind of punishment I do not understand, because it was never used in the schools I went to, and that was in a country which was blighted by a Hitler (Hitler had a very punitive father, a small-minded minor official, who locked his son into a rat-infested cellar for days and nights - you'll find the story in Norman Davies' book).

Boys (and the odd girl) usually had 'time out' when they were disruptive - they had to 'stand in the corner' out on the corridors, sometimes there was a physical exchange in the form of teacher's knuckle struck against the skull and quickly rubbed downwards like striking a match of the offender - only specific teachers did that sort of thing, not generally done. I know what you are saying about 'softer' parenting and teaching styles, but research has shown that aggression (and I don't mean corrective light punishment) against children also makes them into more aggressive adults.

Societies like the Dayaks of Borneo (of course they no longer exist) were notorious for ignoring their babies and children when they were in distress - and their generally harsher treatment of children - thus producing the tough individuals who had to compete in the gruesome way of proofing their manhood in taking another man's skull as an obligatory rite of maturing into manhood.

Britain needed tough administrators for its colonies, hence the harsher method of bringing up the future soldiers and administrators of the empire in its schools and getting them away from molly-coddling mothers by age 6 or 7.

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