Imo, all is relative. Of course, if person "Bob or Mary" creates a profound reality with-in, that context would be difficult for person " Jack or Jill" to understand. Why? Because the attainment of that profound reality is distinct in nature and could not be comprehended, since the experiences are not evenly identifiable. The experience of each individual is a personalized one and we all see things differently. Just because we share would not really mean one or the other is wrong.
In regards to sharing, you have pinpointed a great discussion that merits more investigation and perspectiveness.
