Sorry to hear about your losses valen... especially if you were close. Never a good thing. Whenever I attend a funeral (have many in my large extended family) then I come away we a renewed perspective on how short and precious life is ... Someone said treat everyday like your last ...which sounds great but realistically you can't do that else I would be broke in 24 hours... So instead I get up and starting doing those things that I always wanted but never got around to... I guess in a small way it attempts to take something +ive out of the large -ive that is a death.