@kingpins - and
@310843B: just light-hearted comment on my part; but in my experience, people who begin a conversation with wanting to 'tell you the truth' often proceed to be uninhibitedly rude or cranky and lack a sense of humour and humanity.
I do have a 'friend' who happens to be in need of friends, even though she has a husband, has repeatedly told me, that my house, after my demise, will be knocked down, the grounds subdivided etc. I do not care to even contemplate this, even though I know, she is probably right, but she keeps saying this, has reminded me of this for the last 15-16 years I have lived here. At the moment she is in a woeful state, having had 2 operations on her back and she is years younger than I am, totally dependent on her husband and she still nags him. To me, she is a narcissist, but in need of help, of company - so I tolerate it all, also for the sake of the husband, who now has to do all the work, which includes gardening (she is/was an obsessive gardener!); her husband has similar tendencies, 'saying it as he sees it' - it is often painful for me to visit - so pls. think about the 'recipient' of your honesty!
Crankiness, honesty about our feelings, is never a good policy if you want to make/keep friends. For a start our 'feelings' are not constant, unless you are a robot, and circumstances of people's lives change all the time.
so lets be gentle!
The least we owe our fellow humans, is a civil bearing and good manners, right to the end - I guess i will be thanking the nurse/doctor who cuts off my life-support, realising what an awful job that must be.
"The Truth" as you see it, as you have experienced it, is not the same for another.
I hope you meant it in jest!
go well
Taurisk
