"this is not an illusion. what is illusion is our belief it is illusion"
yes, conventionally speaking, this is an illusion, because of conditioned perception. 'male' (or female) is not an indivisibe thing. but rather a construct of attributes that one selects, or accepts, to form an aggregation, that humans stick a label on, for convienience. but the problem, or trouble, arises when we see this label as something solid or well-defined
the attributes (such as emotions and various tendancies) 'exist' in a similar fashon as 'one' 'moves' into the more etherial (non-'physical'), the degree of freedom increases, and this is also why 'spirituality' goes underground, because, generally speaking, there is strong attachment to physicallity and when it is broken, the attachment is necessarily sacrificed, - this can be very dangerous, if unballanced.
for anyone else that is reading this, i do not believe in, or promote reincarnation, as ddzx projects that i do. but rather rebirth - the illusion-like manifestation of an illusion-like self perpetuation out of factors such as inertia and momentum - habit (that is why i said "loosely put" in 'my' previous post)
we live in a conventional world and in order to discuss things we must use a conventional language subsequently, such languages are subject to higher views, and all sentences can be rendered "irrelevant" in the light of gnosis. to gain anything from a sentence we must have some skill in reading between the lines, or allowing what is between the lines to read it'self to us.
try a thought experiment (and assume many words enclosed in inverted commas - ie, 'your') imagine that you can leave your body on your kitchen bench is a banana and a doughnut due to certain mental habituation you choose to inhabit the banana, then you form some ideas about the banana (that you believe that you have become) stong and dominant and the doughnut being soft and receptive. but this is just a fabfication of the mind that you think your are that is indivisible from the object untill you enetered the picture, there was no male or female - you created it out of ignorance.
"Split a piece of wood and i am there lift a stone and you will find me" after a while one can start too see through things such as buddzxism