“P it’s not me who began this interaction it was you , ”
gosh this sounds awfully familiar
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Psychological abusers often start conversations and then accuse others of picking fights with them. This is a common tactic of gaslighting and manipulation. [1][2][3]
Psychological abusers may initiate a conversation in a calm manner, but then escalate it into an argument or confrontation. When the victim tries to defend themselves or explain their perspective, the abuser will accuse them of being irrational, overly emotional, or starting the fight. [2][3] This allows the abuser to deflect responsibility and paint the victim as the aggressor.
The abuser may also deny events happened the way the victim recalls, question their memory, or claim the victim is oversensitive and misinterpreting innocent comments as attacks. [1][4] This undermines the victim's reality and makes them doubt their own perceptions.
By initiating conversations that devolve into accusations of the victim picking fights, psychological abusers can maintain an upper hand, avoid accountability, and reinforce an environment of tension and fear for the victim. [2][3] It is a way to exert power and control through mind games and manipulation.
[1] Start the Conversation: Be a Better Ally
https://opdv.ny.gov/start-conversation-be-better-ally-0[2] Psychological abuse | Safelives
https://safelives.org.uk/psychological-abuse[3] Crazy Conversations That Are Emotionally Abusive - - Flying Free
https://www.flyingfreenow.com/crazy-conversations-that-are-actually-abuse/[4] Emotional and Psychological Abuse - WomensLaw.org
https://www.womenslaw.org/about-abuse/forms-abuse/emotional-and-psychological-abuse[5] Emotional Abuse: What It Is and Signs to Watch For - Healthline
https://www.healthline.com/health/signs-of-mental-abuse
