thanks again to everyone. the missus did ask me to find out what my friends on the computer thought but i didn't think she would take any notice.
10 to 1 against letting the little fella go (thanks for the NEVER LET A CHANCE song by the way). anyway she rang her mum this arvo to say that it wasn't going to happen.
who said HC was a waste of time and energy! Oh that's right it was my wife.....
