you are the one who is stuck. That I refer to the past is...

you are the one who is stuck. That I refer to the past is because i understand something about how societies and people evolve. None of us exist in isolation and values are never frozen except when someone has a pathological problem or a trauma response

in fact I think that old techniques that rely on control and exercise of power caused untold damage. I am much more interested in using methods that help people to be functional and effective - and these methods exist.