see any father-in-laws trying to control the kids?
women are controllers in general. Most blokes are reasonably cruisy and flexible. Generally within a couple of weeks of a relationship - it's women who want changes in guys
what they wear, what they eat, what they drink, what they say, who they say it to --- it's often little things that seem even like passing comments - then, it builds
blokes in general just don't do that. (note - 'in general')
many MIL's -- control freaks trying to manipulate other's lives.