"so why not drop the pretense, admit that you have a bit of phobia that you are having trouble with, and look to move on and address the actual problems instead of your fears."
I do not have a phobia, I like you disagree with some cultural values. However, unlike you I do not think that simply by mixing with Western values it is going to change 1000 years of religious doctrine, I am not that naive.
"rise above it, mate. you can."
Is that supposed to mean although we are in agreement regarding certain cultural values, I should be more like you and pretend they are not there or not a problem.
